I have a FIRE TONGUE!...and I would not say that it has always served me. I have spoken things that I have regretted. As I have matured professionally, I have come to the conclusion that everything entering my mind should not exit my mouth. I have made a career out of opening my mouth and making people smile, feel good or hate me to a point that they talk to other people about me and I become even more popular. I mean, that is what I do. As I emerge to a level where class and style are the prominent “go to” terms for me, I needed to curb my own mouth and fingertips. But that does not mean that I still do not become angry, frustrated or want to cuss via text, Tweet or in person. Of course I do!! But I have entered into a space of silence.
What does that mean?
Well when people use passive aggressive communication with me, I no longer come back with that spitfire tongue. I just don’t say jack-I mean anything. A Frenemy of mine requested that I not send her text messages to promote my professional women’s events. I graciously agreed! I actually removed her from my phone and considered her not even a Frenemy, but just an acquaintance. >>>This means do NOT ask me for a favor! Low and behold, that same ballsy girl sent me a personal text message WITH A PICTURE requesting that I come to one of her events. HA! I was immediately moved to “go in” on her, but I realized that “going in” would not serve me. So I did not, in fact, I did not do ANYTHING. I just ignored the message. Sometimes the silent answer is the best and classiest way to communicate a no or a HELL NO. There is no lie that needs to come from your lips, there is no uncomfortable moment. This also helps us as women to avoid the cattiness of bullcrap. Somebody may say that this is avoidance at its best, however for me it keeps me classy. Just My Humble Opinion. Classily Yours, Sharelle