I was recently at home vegging out when the Old School Spike Lee Joint, She’s Gotta Have It, came on. It has been years since I had seen it and so I decided to tune in.
I Love Nola Darling
I watched with wide eyes and I could not believe how before its time the character of Nola Darling was and even now is. As a young girl watching this movie, I basically just learned what a freak was and that I should not be one. #SideEye
I would be hard-pressed to find any Black girl, who if they were really honest with themselves didn’t secretly want to be Nola Darling. She was sexy, gorgeous and she got what she wanted. She was artsy, gusty, mouthy and did I say sexy? She was unlike any woman that I had ever really experienced before in any media. As a little girl, I knew that I wanted to be like that. However, I knew that being a freak was most definitely not cool. #MoreSideEye
When I grew up and started making my own love and living my adult life...I realized the power of whatever my freak number is. It is pretty high y’all. I also realized that I did not always want to be what was considered a good girl. Whatever that bullsh*t meant.
Nola Darling was the first of women who displayed that we as women and especially Black women can be both openly sexual and not a whore.
Nola Darling Gave Us FREE!
When I was young (and probably watching what I should not have been watching at that age) Nola Darling set shit off for me. While I feel like my sex is the holiest of holy’s, if I want to run this by a dude (at this sexy ass 39) that’s what I feel free to do. Between the church and our parents telling us what nice girls do and don't do...Nola Darling gave us free.
There have been other characters that have been Nola Darling-esque. But none have been as well-rounded as Ms. Nola Darling herself. Samantha Jones (one of my personal favorites) took ALL of the notes from Nola Darling and Sex & the City ran with it.
But it was only towards the end of the actual show that her cancer showed her as a fully human being. Nola was fully human with feelings on all sides from the time the movie started. She was not just a fuck bucket. Like my bae, Samantha.
I am excited that the NEW She’s Gotta Have It is coming out. And the tea is that it's not just one new movie, but this Spike Lee Joint is going to be a 10 episode season on Netflix. Yes, yes y'all...that part.
I want Tracy Camilla Johns (the Original Nola Darling) to know that she impacted a generation of Black girls. She helped us to reclaim our own individual sexuality and we do realize that she is more than just Uniqua from New Jack City. God Bless your courage to showcase a side of Black girls lives that we dont often see and help make us in future generations feel comfortable enough to have sex when we want to, how we want to, with who we want to and why we want to.
I will be having Netflix and chill on Thanksgiving Day when the new She's Gotta Have It breaks!
What do you remember most about Nola Darling?