I remember the song lyrics "why you wanna, player hate on me." It was song by the Luniz. I used to just jam to that song. It was so appropo, yes everybody was hating on me. I was like 16. So my Mom, my Dad, my teachers, my friends, my Ex's anybody who basically didn't agree with what I said...they were the so called haters.
As I became a more mature woman I realized that just because some instances of life didn't go my way: I didn't get that job, he didn't like me, I failed an exam...this was NOT an indication of anybody HATING on me. It was either just life, a situation that was not for me...or hell maybe I was unprepared or didn't study.
This song, like the term "HATE ON ME"...is played.
Whenever I hear people, especially older people say "They were hating." These always seem to be people in denial of real life. There is no secret group going around plotting for your demise and "hating" on you.
Responsibility is key in the words that we use.
It becomes really easy to remove the self blame for failure or when somebody points out that you are in fact NOT the proper candidate by claiming that they were "hating on you."
I always want to scream from the rooftops,
"Honey ain't NOOOOOOOOOOOBODY hating on you!"
Oftentimes it is the people who care about you who will actually share with you where you might be making a misstep or falling short, guess what, they probably give a damn about how you are looking out there in these streets...versus the rest of us that laugh at your improper use of the word there or their on social media and couldn't care less to send you an inbox so that you do not continue to type stuff like "I like those to."
How about take a good look at yourself, get it that you are not President Obama and nobody is hating on you.
Frankly, and no shade, but most people who use the term "hated on me" don't have ish for any of us hate on.
In my feelings...Don't Hate.