Identifying your ISH isn't always easy...at least not always to you.
I was taking a much needed break from work, my real work, not the party that have when I am writing online...but my career...I was taking a break for a few moments and I saw that a chronic business starter had now opened an Instagram.
I just kinda shook my head and thought, "Thank GOD for his trust fund." I'm sure that his wife and children are probably grateful for it as well.
It made me reflect on my life and how it good it feels for me to be getting my own ISH together.
The struggle can become a place that we become comfortable in and are so accustomed to the struggle that we only know life that way. We have literally forgotten how life was before the struggle started. You just get used to being in the Valley...and you got stuck.
The struggle hampers your ability to get your ish together. When you finally fall into the square hole-and you are a square...that is where serendipity happens. Where epiphany occurs. Where peace lives.
I struggled for a long time. Personally, professionally, relationally and spiritually.
I decided that I did not have to follow any body elses rules, but that I needed to make some up for myself...and the most important part...I needed to stick to them.
At this time in my life I can look at myself, my own truth not tell myself any lies and I am the happiest that I have ever been.
I challenge you to get your ISH together.
If you are struggling financially...face your credit issues head on, oh and doing something that pays you what you are wealth helps you as well!
If you are struggling personally...stop jumping from relationship and friendship to friendship and just be good to yourself. Be the friend to yourself that you want other people to be to you. You will start reaching out to those that you love (and want to love) the way that you want to be reached out to.
If you are struggling professionally...consider a career change.
Personal Note: I felt that ClassyBlackGirl.com was my identity. How could I not "stay the course" the way that I was told would bring all of the benefits that I waited for? Who would I actually become? I became me. The real me. The me who writes what the fuck she wants to write and doesn't wonder how this is going to make "the brands" feel. I'm over it. I started working in a different career and got my ISH together. And my life didnt get anything but better. I needed a career change to grow and it was scary...but so was not paying my bills.
A career that doesn't take you where you need to be AND want to be...will stop you from getting your ISH together.
There is no easy way to get your ISH together.
1. Own It! It takes several walks in front of a full length mirror and some personal forgiveness. Its who you are/were. But don't act like it's not happening.
2. Let It Go! Getting your ISH together also demands that you be okay with starting over but committing to being the best YOU and NOT worrying about what somebody else might say. Even your best friend or your man.
3. Fix It. Be intentional about making the change. Stay away from the people, places or things that do not serve you getting your Ish Together. Focus on the change daily and taking a break from social media can most definitely help you spend more time on getting your ISH together and less envying your friend's new spouse and adorable children.
How do YOU propose to get your ISH togehter?