Dear Ms. Class,
I am friends with a gossiper. She is so wonderful and we have really “good times” together, but sometimes she starts gossiping about people that we know and it makes me uncomfortable because of course the gossip is juicy, but I know that its wrong! Please help me keep my friend but release the gossip!
Gossip Girl by Default - Los Angeles, CA
Dear Gossip Girl,
Your friend may be a good person, but if they are gossiping about others-they are more than likely gossiping about you too. It’s a negative energy that your “friend” has to deal with. In my opinion, its in poor taste to speak negatively about another person merely for sport and in the end gossip ALWAYS comes back to you. However, if you do not choose to part ways with your messy friend, then whenever she begins to gossip here are a few ways that you can thwart that conversation:
- Change the subject suddenly. This will let her know that you do NOT into it.
- Say, “Girl, I don’t even want to talk about him/her when I have my OWN issues.”
- Simply tell her, “I am not comfortable talking about people when they are not here to defend themselves.”
If none of those strategies work, de-friend her. She is talking about you too.
Sharelle D. Lowery | Ms. Class
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