So many walk through life wearing masks of various personalities. Depending on who they are with or where they are, they adjust their personality to make it through. You may think to yourself that this is not normal and wish that you could just "be yourself." What if I were to tell you that it is not necessary to think you have to be any one kind of person. Now, I am not suggesting you become Cybil and think that you are many personalities , I am saying that once you start to think I am this and I am that, or I should be this or I must be that, then you slowly loose what you are and that is human. A human who has the ability to think at any given time serious, thoughts, loving thoughts, provoking thoughts. Once you start putting your self in a box and thinking well, I am a so and so or I should be such and such, then the next thing that is sure to happen is your thought process becomes limited to the scope of what you think a so and so should do or be. That labeling process will eventually take the life out of your living because you will no longer be living you will now be performing! Adjusting your attitude to handle situations are normal however, it is when you put on a false personality and essentially act through it, then you are now performing. Many perform so often that they become lost in layers and layers of false identity.
Why the identity?
Society gives us all these messages of what we ought to be in order to succeed in life. In order to be loved, we should be like this. To be successful, to be unique, to be special, to be somebody all requires us to be a certain type of person. What is so funny is, at the end of the day all we want to be is loved and accepted by our family, friends and associates. So why do we go through all this trouble to separate ourselves from each other? I believe we do this because even worse than not being a somebody is being thought of as a nobody. We must have an identity, and not just any identity but one that is wildly accepted by society. So we perform and we loose our creativity, spirit and even our soul. We become drone like. The beauty of the seeds of our thoughts is no longer available to share with each other because we cannot risk being looked at as dare I say an individual. Can you see the conundrum here, we want to be a somebody outstanding among our peers, but we want to achieve that following the conformity of the crowd.
Today more than ever we are encouraged to be ourselves. Realize that you are everything and everything is you. Embrace the phrase that starts and ends with the simple words "I am." No need for a fake persona, realize you are already fantastic and yes you are an individual. No one else is quite like you. When you accept this you will have arrived to the place where you're no longer serving self, and you are now about serving others, which is the only personality the creator has ever wanted of us!