Its Wedding Etiquette Wednesday!!...and we are talking about The Second Time Around this week!
The divorce rate in America is extremely high. Many people get married once and realize that this was not the partner for them.
So a few years later you meet, "the one!"...well what is the Etiquette when you are getting married the second time? What is appropriate and inappropriate? 40% of all weddings in the United States are Do It Again weddings, so it's nothing new. I am going to give you 10 Tips for getting Wed the Second time, and making sure that you adhere to all of the appropriate Do's and Do Not's From Your Classy, BlackGirl!
Top 10 Tips for Encore Weddings
1. Wear White, if you want to. You do not have to feel like you are not walking in your own truth, by rocking the White. While White is the Traditional Wedding Color for brides, you do not have to feel like you are banned from it because this is not your first Bridal Rodeo. White is no longer an indication of purity, it is a celebration color!
2. Inform The Fam! Make sure that you notify any adult children and your former spouse before you formally announce it. Its simply the right thing to do. Nobody should find out VIA Facebook that you are getting remarried, if they are important to you. More than likely if you have children that are not adults they probably already know that you are in a serious relationship and know who they are.
3. Definitely Register! Yes, register for gifts even though this is not your first wedding. People are going to want to give you gifts!...you deserve them, its a wonderful celebration.
4. Celebrate Fabulously!...Do not Downplay your Wedding because one of you has been married before. It is a disrespect of your new union to focus on the past. You are entering a new stage in Life!
5. No Ex's. Unless you have an amazingly wonderful relationship, your former spouses should not be at your wedding. I actually feel like even if you DO have a great relationship that former spouses do not belong there, this includes the Ex's parents. It's awkward.
6. Do not Re-Jewel. It is NOT acceptable to wear or use wedding jewelry from a previous relationship to symbolize the love and commitment of the new marriage.
7. Parents may still issue the invitations, especially if the bride is young.
8. Get Your Veil On! While a veil is still appropriate, the full veil, commonly known as The Blusher Veil should be passed on. This is the Veil that covers the entire face. You are a little less modest at your second wedding, show your beautiful face as you Sashay down the aisle this time!
9. New Groom, Same Girls! Feel free to use the same attendants that you used as your first weeding, your husband might change, but your best friend probably didn't...and you will probably want her to still be your maid or matron of honor.
10. Celebrate! Make sure that you enjoy this wedding and do not stress over the small stuff!! Do NOT forget the Thank You notes, even if you have a casual wedding. Everybody from the guests, to vendors to attendants should be thanked with a hand-written note.
Wedding Etiquette is important, but remember that Rules should never be more important than your enjoying this new marriage and the party to go with it.
If you have any Wedding or Etiquette questions, please do not ever hesitate to contact me via email at AskSharelle@ClassyBlackGirl.com or Tweeting me @ClassySharelle.
Sharelle D. Lowery Power Blogger | Author | Professional Speaker