The world tells me that my situation is an anomaly. I’m part of a dying breed. The Fully Fathered Black Man.
The fully fathered black man is a thing of the past. I’ve seen the statistics that attempt to support this missing black father and I hear the news reports that spotlight the worst of the worst. Yes, I even know ladies that are now the single mothers- I see you nodding in agreement.
In light of all of the negativity, that I’ve pushed and searched to come to the realization that the Black Father is still very much alive and well in American society. The Black Father doesn’t get the media coverage of his lesser counterparts and the stats that show just how prevalent he is often get looked over. Regardless of that I know for a fact he is here.
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On this Father’s Day I can’t begin to imagine the mentality of those that elect to step out of the role of Father to the children they created. To not want to play ball with that boy in the park, teach him things like how to use the bathroom standing up, how to tie a proper tie knot, how to drive and so many of those little “man” skills that a boy will need in life.
Most in importantly, I can say from my personal experience that the ultimate lessons from my Father are how to carry myself with pride and respect and how to treat a woman. My Dad’s peaceful and loving interactions with my Mom are the greatest lessons ever given to me and they have not changed at any moment in my life.
I see the fall out results of absentee Fathers everyday but in turn I do see many men doing their job to be the men in their son’s lives that they need to be. No CNN special or TIMES mag article can tell me different from what I see with my own eyes.
The Black Father is not a dying species...he just needs better Press.
My Father, My Guiding Light Dad, you're like the sun to me, a sure thing, always there, beaming light and warmth on my life.
Whatever is good in me today, I owe to your wisdom, your patience, your strength, your love.
You taught me by example, how to be my own person, how to believe in myself, instructing me without controlling me.
Even when we disagreed, you held us together, so our bond was never broken.
I understand what you did for me, and I am so grateful that I have you as my solid foundation, my rock.
I respect you, I admire you, I love you, my guiding light, my father. as a role model,
-By Joanna Fuchs