The Flip of Being the Side Chick
So I totally enjoyed the first episode of Being Mary Jane, it did not disappoint a bit! And after least years debut, it had a LOT to live up to. I loved how I got to see so much range in Mary Jane's character and how each and every scene was so relatable to ME as a Classy, BlackGirl with all types of life, relationship and work experiences.
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I was most taken aback by the Side Chick - Sideline Status that Mary Jane experienced. I want to examine and unbox it.
We have been hearing the term, "Side Chicks are Winning" for a while now. From Joseline Hernandez getting married, Alicia Keys living happily ever after and the queen of all Side Chicks Miss Mary Jane herself, Gabrielle Union...when Dwayne Wade put a ring on it. Even scripted television has us thinking that Side Chicks are on top: Olivia Pope on Scandal and Candace on The Have's and Have Nots are killing the game. From romance to money...again...it seems like women who don't mind a taken man are winning!
Us regular girls get to thinking, well damn-maybe I have been going about this relationship thing the wrong way....this is simply NOT true.
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Mary Jane Stays Side Chick Side Lined
We watched Mary Jane go back to her Mr. Never Answer and they are all loving and seemingly into each other, he(who she should not even be talking to) is at her house when she gets home from rescuing her girlfriend from a suicidal trip. Mary Jane and her "dude" are hugging and communicating like a couple, but they are only like a couple-they actually aren't.
Mary Jane has to work late and when she can't make the date with Mr. Never Answer, he simply calls
his other chick somebody else to go with and so much as tells her that there might be sex happening between the two of them...his NEW date.
PAUSE: Why the HAYLE is this man who has done her wrong a LOT in the past, in her house, without her...and brushing his teeth?? WHUT?
Enter the Wife, Side Chick Issues
Then the wife of another one of Mary Jane's men comes to her JOB and confronts Mary Jane about her relationship with her husband. If you have ever been confronted by a woman about her man, it's humiliating for you both. #ClutchThePearls
That same married man continually manipulates Mary Jane and at the end of the episode has public and so called romantic raw sex with her in the women's gym shower. Really?
Side Chick Desires
All the while Mary Jane covets complete relationships, a full family and children of her own. I appreciate BET showing this "Side" of the Side Chick, the loneliness, the longing and the one dimensional way that men who are already attached or not committed actually see you-as basic. And this flip side of the Side Chick is not romantic, no matter how good your weave is or how good your sex is....Although I love Scandal, Liv is making Side Chicks look like they are winning and irreplacable. And that is simply not true.
For the first episode...I loved it!
What did you think of the first Mary Jane?..was this a more accurate portrayal of side chicks?
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